To Do, To Have, and To Be?

" The joy of life is the conviction that we are loved . Therefore , we share the love for others . " ( Victor Hugo )
Nothing can stop the time . He continues to advance . Age continues to grow . Humans also experience episodes in his life . When entering the mature phase , entering the three stages of life .


There was a period where people are focused on doing something ( to do ) . There are currently focusing on collecting ( to have ) . There is a vigorous search for the meaning of life ( to be ) . Unfortunately , not everyone is able to pass through the three stages of the process .
The first phase , phase to do . In this phase , people are still productive . People work hard with a thousand and one reasons . But , many people addicted to work , toil , to sacrifice a lot of things , still does not produce better fruit . It is very sad . Smothering people rushing by , but no progress . This was illustrated in this short story . Some people see a boat on the lake shore . Immediately he jumped up and began to paddle . He continued rowing with enthusiasm. The canoe is moving . But , not too away from the mouth of the lake . The man was conscious , the boat is still tied with rope on a pole .
Well , most of us , was already working a lot . But , it was not productive . A colleague decided to leave the company . He wants to build his own business . Happily, he was promoting his business . Business cards and brochures distributed . He acted as a busy person .
But , two years have passed , but the business has not resulted in anything. Of course , this condition is very alarming . Jay Abraham , motivation expert in finance and marketing once said , " A lot of people say doing business . But , there are no results whatsoever . It is not a business . " Let us look at our own lives . Are we just busy and work hard , but subconsciously we do not produce anything ?
The second phase , phase to have . In this phase , people started to produce . But , there is a danger , people will get caught up in the busyness collect their possessions . People terobesesi collect as much treasure . Despite the mountain of his property , but he was not able to enjoy life . His eyes have been closed and forgotten material and shock looking at a variety of beauty in life . More - over , giving a bit of meaning to the lives that have been undertaken . Many people fall into this phase .
The world is always inviting us to have a lot of things . Shopping centers are besieged from all directions has forced us to consume a lot of stuff .
In fact , the world offers a new perception . People who succeed are those who have a lot of things . However , this false perception often makes people sacrifice a lot of things . Whether it's marriage , family , health , or spiritual .
Psychologically , it is not bad phase . Self-esteem and sense of self-satisfaction can be built with achievements owned . However , the problem lies in the attachment to . People no longer be an independent person .
A friend who became director of production reveal the honesty behind his success . He bemoaned his relationships with both worsening . "I wish my desk was able to tell us how many tears were dripping here , perhaps this table can tell you about my inner loneliness ... , " he said .
Phase was a proof of our identity . We need to pass it. But , it's like drinking sea water . The more drink , the more we thirst . Finally , we are obsessed to drink even more .
The third phase , phase to be . In this phase , people do not just work and collect , but also to interpret . People continue to hone self-awareness to be a better person . A doctor tells . He terobesesi become rich because his childhood was pretty poor . When the dusk down the age , he already has it all . He wants mesyukuri and interpret all of that with a lot of clinics and neighborhood health center opened in poor villages .
Meaning of lifeHe means to be the meaning of his life for others . There is also a great businessman with a background in agriculture to move to the village to empower farmers . Both claimed to really enjoy the choice .
This phase is the phase we become more meaningful . We become valuable personal possessions not because we have, but what we can give to others .
Our lives are like bread . Bread would be valuable if we can share for many people in need . John Maxwell in the book Success to Significant said " The most important question that must be asked is not what all I got . But , being what I am? "
Well , Mahatma Gandhi became a concrete example of this kind of person . Actually , he became a successful lawyer . But , he chose to fight according to his conscience . He became a human fighter for the poor of India .
Well , in Which phase of our lives now ? Let us not obsessed with work or have , but become more mature , more meaningful and contribute !